the thought of becoming an adult one day is the scariest thing ever why cant i live the rest of my life blogging about fictional characters and laughing at stupid shit
I am going to let you in on the worst-kept secret in fandom: we’re actually mostly adults around here.
I am thirty-two years old. One of my oldest friends is pushing forty. His older sister is forty-six. We all blog about fictional characters and stupid shit. One of the first people who ever GMed a tabletop RPG for me still goes to cons. He’s at least fifty.
We are all, in theory, grown adults who are holding down jobs and have cars or rent or morgage payments or student loans and/or marriages and/or children. We vote and eat bran-tastic food for our hearts and buy sensible shoes.
Also, the first song I danced to at my first Homecoming dance was recently played on a local oldies station, dear god.
I mean, seriously. Grownups. We made it to the other side, fan-brains intact. So can you.
Becoming an adult is not scary. Becoming an adult is not about stopping with the tumbling and the cat videos. It’s just about doing that shit between work and errands instead of between school and chores. It’s about being able to do different kinds of epic shit — I may not be able to write another 50k fanfic, but I can decorate my entire kitchen in Captain America stuff and re-wire my rice cooker so the light looks like an arc reactor.
If you’re worried about no longer being fannish and not liking ridiculous silly shit (I assume ‘for no good reason’, aka ‘growing out of it’), you’re worried about becoming boring, not old.
So what if people call what we do childish? A: they’re wrong, there’s some serious grown-up badassery going ‘round in fandoms, and B: what’s wrong with being childish? Are children something we should avoid being like? Doesn’t everyone wish they could return to childhood?
We are living a friggin’ eternal youth on the internet. Anyone tells you ‘grownups don’t do this stuff’ is just jealous. Hmph.
Now get off my damn lawn, kid.
Seriously, we can all live this beautiful grown up fan life forever. 8D
38, still going strong. I’m planning a retirement home con in 40 years or so…
This response, maybe without even meaning to, just hinted at the main issue with being a grown-up as seen by today’s generation. I’m 27 and I’m constantly told off by my mother for liking “childish” stuff, namely Rubik’s cubes and children’s books (amongst other things), she was raised in a time where to grow up, was to leave your toys and dreams behind in order to have enough room for your responsibilities.
This generation is bearing the brunt of the change of world views, you can still be responsible for your life and like toys (in fact, I highly encourage people to enjoy games not just video game,s mind you, but actually deconstructing the realities that surround you and boiling them down into a make believe sort of game, to step outside the box and see what happens helps with creativity and the innovation process, two things we desperately need to evolve as a species and adapt to ever-changing world and times; but I digress).
To be responsible is not to dress in a sharp suit and go to a place you despise and punch in some numbers and call it work and having a job, no, being responsible is knowing that in order to achieve a better place (emotionally, financially, in a relationship, with yourself, etc.) sometimes we need to play the long game and go through stuff we don’t thoroughly enjoy in order to arrive at a nice destination. Being responsible is knowing that the stuff that comes out of your mouth might eventually hurt someone, and if it does it’s your cross to bear and your job to see if it can or if it should be repaired, it means cleaning after your messes and planning ahead, and all of these things can be achieved dressed however you want, liking whatever films you feel like watching and discussing headcanons with other people (on or off line). We no longer need to put aside or “childish” tastes and likes in order to be working citizens of Earth and accomplish stability in life.