Hi, I’m Gifted.
I’m so tired of being frightened of speaking out about it. Have you ever noticed that people from many neuro-atypical groups speak out and support each other on tumblr, but gifted students and adults don’t often? We don’t really organize together.
Funny that, I like to think that it’s because…
Yeah…. I’m gifted too….
Its really something that’s hard to talk about. We’re all so afraid of coming across as arrogant. In the end, none of us really feel like we’re worth anything, because for the most part, we all had bad childhoods. So when we try to admit, yes I’m gifted, we just feel ashamed.
So yeah, we’re all totally insecure about who we are, and most of us spend our lives downplaying our talents and abilities because we’d much rather fit in and be normal.
Isn’t it great to be grifted?????
This is a problem a lot of us face! It’s hard to deal with, because being afraid to talk about it means for the most part, others don’t really know about it. It’s a little cyclic, isn’t it?
This is a relatively new blog, but you’re always free to talk about being gt here and we won’t treat you poorly for it.
Keep your chin up, and good luck on your novel dear.
I just wanted to say thank you for being here and speaking up. I really appreciate seeing someone who is actually gifted themselves talking about us for a change. Judging by the number of likes and reblogs I’ve seen on some posts, there are a lot of people on tumblr who were labeled “gifted” as kids and are now dealing with all the crappy ways people treated them as a result. You’re definitely not alone!
I’m also glad to see more discussion from people who have actually carried that label around. It does seem like we’re often less likely to talk about our (maybe especially negative) experiences, thanks to some of the pervasive “don’t act like/think you’re anything special” attitudes and derailment from people who just DO NOT UNDERSTAND.
I did know a few kids who seemed to not mind or even enjoy being singled out for that kind of “special attention”. A very few. I know more people who absolutely hated it, and the kinds of treatment that encouraged from other kids and too many actual teachers. One of the last things I want is more of that kind of attention from horrible assholes. This seems to be more common than not.
Personally, I am one of the people who also had a developmental disability and LDs ignored and brushed over—and got placed under the kind of pressure that I’m still trying to recover from the results of in my late 30s—because I was hyperlexic and good at taking certain kinds of tests. Far from an unusual type of situation, unfortunately, but it’s also been good to see more people talking about those sorts of experiences more on the disability end of things. No matter what else may be going on, just the kind of treatment that kids get as a result of being considered “gifted” is too often really, really harmful.
(I was also lucky enough not to face that at home, unlike a lot of people. And it’s still made some things harder than they ever should have been.)
I’ve also run into a thing where people who didn’t have the label seem invested in tearing it down and denying that anyone labeled with it could have really been gifted, which makes it hard to talk about, especially in terms of how that label was used to deny the presence of developmental disabilities and learning disabilities (as clatterbane says above).
I wrote a post about this on FWD when it was still active.
I am autistic, and I wasn’t diagnosed, either for being autistic or for serious sensory and coordination problems, because I was ‘gifted.’
Holy crap, me too. I was placed in the gifted program in 2nd grade. Because of that, I was never diagnosed with autism until I was 25. I also didn’t get diagnosed with OCD, PTSD, or any other mental issues I had. I was also ignored when I complained of pain when I tried to write, being told I was being lazy and should just do the work instead of being difficult. It wasn’t until I was almost 30 that a physiological reason was discovered, validating that pain.
With my autism, I honestly don’t understand the social implications of being in gifted, but I’m sure the existed. I was already bullied from the day I started kindergarden, so I’m not sure if that made it worse. There was definitely pressure to make good grades, but that died off when I started failing classes in 6th grade, and failing whole grades by 8th. With those, I just stopped caring due to all the bullying from peers and teachers.
In 9th grade, I requested to be removed from the gifted program. It was tied together with English classes, which were my weakness. They required extensive writing (painful), and advanced understanding of nuanced languages (impossible with my autism). After VERY harsh bullying from my teacher, I needed to be out.
I ended up not graduating over a half credit. I got my GED instead. Middle and high school were the single worst period of my life. I do wonder if the gifted program contributed to that. That said, some of the extra studies the program gave me access to were wonderful and gave me my love of learning.
there aren’t any “gifted” programs in my country, or anything that remotely looks like it, there are some schools that claim to teach children who are way above the average IQ, but they’re so expensive, tat they rarely survive for more than 7-10 years, they blip in and out of existence in some areas.
However, despite not existing an official recognition of what being gifted is, there is such a thing as being recognised by teachers and schools as very intelligent, especially in private schools, and that’s all you need for people to start pushing you a hundred times over. I was one of those kids, not labelled as gifted, not per se, but pushed well beyond my boundaries. I was traumatised by my last 4 years of school (high-school, if there was such a thing here), like the poster before me, I was constantly bullied by teachers and head-stuff at my school, but it was meant as “benevolent behaviour”, “tough love” even, they were “pushing me to be my best”. Even if that meant signalling me out for other children to bully me over special treatment, or calling me lazy for not raising over there already pretty steep standards. It was hell. I’ve been out of school for almost ten years, and I still get the odd flashback and nightmare every now and then.
And don’t even get me started on having any sort of learning disability or being generally neurodiverse, it all got brushed aside as “laziness”, and the parts that weren’t overlooked, stuck out like splinters in an otherwise beautifully crafted armoire, they had to be sanded away and made into something presentable and correct, worthy of being “gifted”.
OK, I’m disgusted by my own childhood and adolescence experiences, I need to get out of here.